This week, we discuss Joy and Self-Connection. You may want to know what self-connection has to do with joy, or what I mean about being there for your life.
Let me ask you some questions:
- When you eat, do you smell, taste, enjoy, appreciate, or even know what you are eating?
- Are you in a rush thinking and worrying about the next task while you eat?
- Do you feel “guilty” because you can’t control your diet; eating those foods that you know you shouldn’t?
A few more:
- When you are on a vacation, do you find yourself uncontrollably checking your cell phones every five minutes, feeling afraid that you’ll miss something or be disconnected from the world?
- Do you tell yourself while on vacation: “the next time I go on a trip, I will be fully present on the vacation”?
- When you spend time with your children, are you 100% there for them, or just physically present?
Joy Starts From Self-Connection – Are You There In Your Life? If the answers to the above questions are YES, then you are NOT there!
Here is a great formula that a friend in my coaching field shared with me. I am very happy to share it with you:
Intention -> Attention -> Connection
Anytime you feel that you don’t fit in society or feel disconnected in any social environment, there must be some inner voices and self-talk in your mind at those moments.
If you spend a lot of time worrying about a deadline or stressing about the results of a project, you distract yourself from fully connecting to that moment and to the piece of the task you are undertaking. To obtain good results from any work, you just need to pay your attention only to the task itself at that particular moment.
Can you see it? We have a “Mind Gap” at certain times and on certain things. According to Eckhart Tolle‘s teaching, very often we live within a psychological timing. We let our non-existent past or imaginative future come to occupy the current moment, distracting us from living our life fully at each NOW moment.
Very often, we don’t self-connect well as we forget our intention in the first place. “What I want to do, what am I doing here?” We don’t know where we want to go, and we get upset and complain about why we don’t get there like others do.
So our practice for today is to fill this “Mind Gap” and bring us back from the psychological time (of thinking of the past or future) to the current physical time, which is NOW. All great athletes master their self-connection: letting go of anything that doesn’t belong to this exact moment.
When we are fully connected, we live our lives with integrity as who we truly are. When we have harmonious energy and the least inner conflicts and resistance inside of us, we have the efficient energy we need for daily life.
When we are fully connected, we present ourselves wholly and through our whole self (but not half or part of us) to the world. We can smell, see, hear, touch, feel and fully experience, making the most of our life.
Joy is not like only having happy moments without negative feelings and issues. Joy is to accept and embrace all, including the turbulence, and live one step a day with ease and peace.
I invite you to join me and walk together on this joyful journey. Everybody is an actor or actress and has his/her role in the life.
Let’s play our own roles, instead of being an audience only; watching other people playing their roles. Playing together with all, we can make it a great show!
